FAITH/HEALTH AND THE KINGDOM OF GOD

        Most everyone in Lexington knows “Durango.”  I learned a few years ago that while everyone calls him “Durango” he prefers his given name, Kenneth.  Kenneth lives in Bob’s Board House on Main Street in downtown Lexington.  He is a fixture at American Legion Baseball games and the Davidson County Fair.  Years ago he rode a bicycle all over town and beyond.

        Jimmy Snyder has been a good and helpful friend to Kenneth for many years.  When I found out that Kenneth needed a medical procedure at Lexington Medical Center, I thought it might be a good “trial run” for FaithHealthNC. 

        The preparation for the procedure has recently changed and when Kenneth told me he wasn’t sure what to do, I looked at his instructions and it took me a while to figure it out.  This happens often with medicine.  Part of FaithHealth is helping people understand their medical orders. 

          Early Monday morning I picked Kenneth up from his apartment and took him to Lexington Medical Center.  Jim Tate, our FaithHealth Administrator had sent out an email last week explaining the need and had an immediate and positive response.  Gary Wikstrom had volunteered to pick Kenneth up after his procedure, so I had written down Gary’s phone numbers and also mine, but the nurse told me somebody had to be at the hospital during the actual procedure.  I told her that I would stay and then called Gary to let him know what was going on.  He came right on to the hospital.  We were both there when Kenneth came out of the procedure and we talked to the doctor.  

          Gary took over, taking Kenneth home and getting him settled.   Gary also provided a meal for Kenneth and later in the evening, Michelle and William Hopkins also brought him a meal.  They also called him and checked on him.

          Kenneth called me that night.  He was thrilled with all the attention he received and went into great detail telling me everything that was brought to him to eat.  He told me that would last him for several days.  Then he said, as only Kenneth can, “Thank you for all the nice things you did for me today.”  

          The greatest gift we gave to Kenneth was not transportation and food, although that was very important, but we surrounded him with love and support—and that meant more than any medicine or medical procedure. 

          Kenneth’s words:  “Thank you for all the nice things you did for me today” echo as a blessing and a challenge.   Isn’t this what Jesus had in mind when he talked about building the Kingdom of God?

 

A VOID, A GAP, NEVER TO BE FILLED

The tears streamed down, and I let them flow as freely as they would, making of them a pillow for my heart." — Augustine

It's been almost 35 years ago, but I will never forget that hot summer night when I heard some noise over at the church and went to investigate. It was late on a Friday night, and we were living in the parsonage next to the church.

I encountered a group of teenage boys who were riding around town on a dune-buggy, engaged in a water balloon battle with their friends. They had stopped by the church to replenish the water balloons with our outdoor faucets. I had a nice conversation with the boys and asked that they make sure the faucets were turned off when they finished. They wished me a good night, and I told them to be safe. Little did I know …

I was a volunteer emergency medical technician on the local rescue squad, and it was my night to be on call. Around midnight I was jolted out of my sleep by a loud alarm followed by an announcement that there had been a wreck with injuries on a dirt road out of town.

I met my partner, and we were quickly en route with lights and sirens blaring. As we pulled up to the accident I was shocked to see the same dune-buggy turned upside down in a ditch. Several bodies were scattered across the road — the boys I met at the church. We called for backup and quickly started to triage the injuries. Two or three of the boys were seriously hurt, but their injuries were not life threatening.

But then I saw that one of the boys was not moving. Rushing over to him I immediately recognized that there was nothing I could do. He had been thrown from the vehicle and was crushed as it rolled over him. We took a sheet and covered his body while we attended to the injured.

Other ambulances came and transported the victims to the hospital while I stayed behind with the state trooper. We thought that we should find out who the young man's minister was and ask him to go with us to notify his family. We found his driver's license and when I saw his name I realized that I was the minister! They were members of my church.

He was their only child. I will never forget the anguish, the panic, the shock and disbelief. The father insisted that we take him to the scene of the accident. Then we went with him to the hospital where he sobbed over his son's lifeless body. I was with the family most of the weekend. I preached the young man's funeral. It was one of the saddest things I have ever had to do.

I think of this young man from time to time, but especially when I hear of a tragic accident like the one our community experienced last month. I do not know the family who lost their precious little girl in the pool accident, but my heart immediately went out to them.

Nicholas Wolterstorff, a prolific Christian philosopher, shared the deep wounds of his heart after the tragic death of his son in a book titled "Lament for a Son." He talked about the great void that is left. "Never again will anyone inhabit the world the way he did. Questions I have can never now get answers. The world is emptier. My son is gone. Only a hole remains, a void, a gap, never to be filled."

Paula D'arcy, who lost a daughter in terrible car wreck, wrote of her anguish in a book, "Song for Sarah: A Mother's Journey Through Grief and Beyond." She made the statement: "God never guaranteed anything to be permanent except his love. I made all the other conclusions."

I have no answers to these tragic events. However, I must believe that God's love is all we have and all we need. God's heart is broken as heavily as the parents. And God understands.

Almost a year after the young man was killed, his father stopped by the parsonage with a gift. He made us a beautiful wooden bookcase. It was the work of a master craftsman. There were no nails. The wood was dovetailed together. I was deeply touched by his gift. He had spent hours and hours making it perfect. "When you look at it," he said, "think of my son."

I do, but I also think of the father for I realized that he was finally walking through the valley. There was life on the other side.

 

TIGER CRUISE

 

        The Navy says she is 90,000 tons of diplomacy.  The USS Dwight D. Eisenhower is one the greatest aircraft carriers (My son Knight corrected me—THE GREATEST aircraft carrier) in the world.  The “Mighty Ike” leads a Strike Group that covers 2.5 million square miles of water including the Arabian Gulf and Sea, Red Sea, Gulf of Oman and Gulf of Aden.  They just returned from their latest combat and security mission to a much deserved hero’s welcome in Norfolk on July 3.  As the colossal carrier finally docked at the Norfolk Naval Ship Yards in front of thousands of cheering family members after being at sea for 13 of the last 16 months, I was having the experience of a lifetime.  I wasn’t standing in the cheering crowd watching the ship come in—I was actually on board the ship with almost 5,000 anxious sailors who were all so thrilled to finally be home!  In fact, I had been on the Ike since Monday and had seen and experienced things that most civilians can never even imagine.

        Our son, Knight, serves as a Chief Petty Officer on the Eisenhower and told me a number of months ago that a “Tiger Cruise” might be a possibility at the end of their long deployment.  I can’t find anyone who knows where the “Tiger” terminology comes from, other than an arbitrary Naval designation for civilians who are invited to board a ship for a cruise.  A sailor can invite a family member other than a spouse.  Knight invited me and Ken Severt, his father-in-law, as well as his brother-in-law, Heath. We knew that sometime around the end of June or early July the Tiger Cruise would be an option, but did not know the exact dates until a couple of weeks ago for security reasons.  Even then the dates could not be communicated by phone or emails. 

        After church on June 30, Joyce and I drove to Raleigh-Durham airport.  Joyce went on to our daughter’s (Della) house in Wendell and they came to Norfolk to meet the ship on July 3.  I flew from RDU to Jacksonville (via Chicago?) and arrived at the airport around 11:30 Sunday night.  On Monday morning I met Ken and Heath and we boarded a charter bus from the airport to the Mayport Naval port. 

        We arrived at the dock around 10:30 in the morning and I was surprised that the Eisenhower was not there.  But you could see her way off in the distance and since it was low tide and she has a 45-foot draft, they were waiting for high tide to dock. 

        No one is more organized than our military and they made sure no one was bored or hungry.  Under a big tent they had sandwiches and drinks that everyone enjoyed while a Navy band entertained us with great patriotic music.  We could hear the excitement building as the “Mighty Ike” was spotted moving in our direction and as she drew closer and closer it was evident just how massive the ship really is.  Commissioned in 1977, she is a 5-star nuclear powered aircraft carrier with a flight deck that is almost 1,100 feet long and covers over 4.5 acres.  The ship and air crew total over 5,500.  She can sail at over 30 knots, even fully loaded. 

        I had seen the Ike come back from deployments in Norfolk, but this was the first time I had seen the carrier with its full complement of aircraft.  There are 85-90 birds, primarily F-18 fighter jets.  It was an impressive sight!

        A number of sailors had elected to disembark at Mayport and so we witnessed some happy and tearful homecomings.  We simply cannot imagine how difficult long deployments are on family members.  Fathers, who have had babies born while they were away, are always allowed to disembark first.  A few years ago I saw a Navy mother reunited with her little 3 year old daughter after a long deployment.  I get teary just thinking about it. 

        The plan was that after all the departing sailors were off the ship, the Tiger sponsors would come ashore to find their Tigers.  However, there was this deluge of rain that starting falling—and continued to fall---it was raining cats and dogs and tigers, too!

        My flight out of Raleigh was delayed due to heavy rain, but you don’t delay a 90,000 ton aircraft carrier.  Knight found us in the middle of the monsoon and we were literally soaked to the skin by the time we got on board.  Not to worry though---every problem has a solution in the Navy.  A kind sailor who works for Knight took our wet clothes and put them in a dryer and another sailor spent several hours drying our shoes. 

        Once we had on some dry clothes, Knight took us to our berths.  The Tiger Cruise is not to make you comfortable.  You sleep where the sailors sleep, eat the same food, follow the same schedules—in other words, we experience what they experience.  We were placed in coffin racks.  They were 3 deep on either size.  I had the middle rack.  The first night I wasn’t sure I could even squeeze in it, and once I did I quickly discovered why it is so named.  There were maybe five inches   from my nose to the top of the rack.  You really felt like you were in a coffin and turning over on your side was an adventure!  These sailors sleep in these racks every night (or during the day for those who work at night) of the deployment.  Going to the “Head” (the bathroom) was another adventure.  You had to open a watertight door from our berthing quarters that placed you in a small room with an open manhole.  If you slipped and fell down the manhole, it would not be good.  Plus you had to negotiate around the steel cover that took the rest of the floor space in the tiny cubicle.  From there you opened the door to the head, where you would find showers, sinks, and toilets. 

 

 

        A person who is not in physical shape could not survive a Tiger Cruise.  You do a lot of walking and climbing.  All of the “stairs” are essentially vertical ladders and going from the crew quarters to the upper levels of the tower can mean a 10 to 12 deck climb.  We used to wonder why our son Knight was so skinny, but after following him around for three days on the ship—I knew.  And I was so thankful that I work out at the YMCA.

        You eat in the same mess (dining) as your sailor and this was where we had it made because we got to eat in the CPO Mess.  The first night we had t-bone steaks and huge crab legs—not to mention chicken and all the fixings.  I assumed that this was served to everyone, but I quickly found out that was not the case.  There are around 250 CPOs on this ship of over 5,000.  They have their private dining area where they are waited on by an efficient staff.  In the mornings we had eggs cooked to order or omelets, bacon, sausage, biscuits, gravy—mercy me!  It was very good.  After that wonderful meal the first night they later had an ice cream social!

        One of the most amazing events of the cruise was the air power display.  We found a great vantage point up high on the tower next to the flight control center.  The F-18 don’t fly off the carrier, they are catapulted.  In a blink of an eye, they go from standing still to over 130 miles per hour and they are airborne with a might roar of their powerful jet engines.  The F-18s put on quite a show. We saw them fly loops, upside down, refuel in flight, and fly in formation.  Helicopters hovered around the ship and flares were launched in the water.  But the most incredible moment came when I caught something coming from the east in the corner of my eye.  I looked just in time to see an F-18 flying so fast there was no sound.  She zipped across the front of the ship with laser speed and then it happened—a sonic boom!   We were in awe and overwhelmed by it all.  Finally, as the choppers displayed big American Flags, the F-18s flew over in precise formation.

 

        Later that afternoon we had the same vantage point as the dozens of F-18s departed the ship for their home base at NAS Oceana.  For the entire deployment these brave pilots had been flying combat missions and we watched, felt the heat from the jet engines, smelled the jet fuel, and saw the genuine emotion of leaving the ground crew who had supported them throughout this mission, knowing that in a few hours they would be reunited with wives and children for the first time in months. 

        After another wonderful meal in the CPO Mess, we watched a few episodes of “Duck Dynasty” with Knight and shared some good laughs before going up on the now empty flight deck for an evening display of the ship’s weaponry.  While the ship is always accompanied by a fleet of battleships and strike force vessels, it has its own firepower that was demonstrated in an awesome display of military might.  The scenario was an unknown and unresponsive vessel that could be potentially hostile.  First flares are shot in the direction of the vessel.  Then a warning is announced.  If there is still no response, the Captain can elect to attack.  Chills were going up and down my spine as the Captain’s voice boomed over the speakers, “Open Fire!”  I didn’t need a July 4 firework display!  It was incredible to behold!  And woe to the enemy, whoever they may be, if they are in the line of fire!  Knight arranged for us to have one of the 50 caliber casings as a souvenir.  

        We had the opportunity to tour the ships Combat Command Center and also Flight Operations.  The technology was astonishing.  I don’t think NASA could beat the modern technology onboard these war vessels.  I’ve never seen so many computer screens, digital and video displays, and high-tech stuff in all my life.  They can actually direct an F-18 to a precise landing on the flight deck with a six-inch margin of error.  This is necessary since they need to hook the recovery cable, otherwise they cannot stop.  My head was spinning when we finally decided we needed some ice cream!

 

        The incredible aircraft carrier, the mind-boggling technology, the awesome airpower, the chilling gun power were all overwhelming.  But when I was asked to name the most impressive thing I experienced on the Ike, I responded without hesitation, “The crew.”   The brave men and women who serve on the USS Eisenhower are by far the most committed, impressive, and competent service men and women I have ever known.  Every single sailor, from the lowest ranking sailor to the Captain, whom we had a chance to meet, was kind, professional, helpful, and extremely proud to be on the “Greatest Aircraft Carrier” in the world!  They asked me how I was doing, was I enjoying the cruise, could they do anything to help me, did I sleep well, did I like the food, and on and on.  And yet, here were individuals who sacrifice much more than I.  They are separated from their families.  They don’t see their children grow up.  They miss the everyday blessings of life we take for granted.  And they wanted to know how I was doing! 

 

        It makes me proud to be an American, proud of our military, proud of the brave men and women who serve with dedication and courage and great sacrifice, and proud of my son who has excelled as a member of the United States Navy.  And, I am grateful and so very thankful for each of every member of our military who keep us safe and preserve the freedom so many thousands have died to secure. 

        I was impressed that every night at 9:55 the chaplain comes on the speaker and delivers a brief devotion and says a prayer.  The prayers I heard were thoughtful, meaningful, and most appropriate to the occasion.  I didn’t realize that every night each member of this huge and mighty military vessel will pause to pray and reflect.  I was deeply moved.

        On the final night, after we had witnessed the awesome display of military might and power through guns and aircraft, we spent some time on the flight deck.   Military ships are dark at night for obvious reasons.  We looked up into the sky and saw one of the most incredible displays of power that is so mighty it puts all the guns and missiles and planes and bombs to shame.  150 miles out in the Atlantic, away from all artificial light, I saw the heavens in all of their majesty and glory and I stood in awe of the greatest power.  And as I reflected, I heard the words: 

O Lord, our Lord,
How excellent is Your name in all the earth,
Who have set Your glory above the heavens!

² Out of the mouth of babes and nursing infants
You have ordained strength,
Because of Your enemies,
That You may silence the enemy and the avenger.

³ When I consider Your heavens, the work of Your fingers,
The moon and the stars, which You have ordained,
⁴ What is man that You are mindful of him,
And the son of man that You visit him?
⁵ For You have made him a little lower than the angels,
And You have crowned him with glory and honor.

⁶ You have made him to have dominion over the works of Your hands;
You have put all things under his feet,
⁷ All sheep and oxen—
Even the beasts of the field,
⁸ The birds of the air,
And the fish of the sea
That pass through the paths of the seas.

⁹ O Lord, our Lord,
How excellent is Your name in all the earth!

 

 

 

       

       

Jesus Has Something to Offend Everyone

 One of the things I love about Bible study is the good discussion that a difficult passage produces.

A couple of weeks ago in our YMCA Thursday morning group we were discussing one of the most troubling passages in the Gospels when Jesus calls a lady a dog. Jesus said WHAT? Yep, that's exactly what he called her (Mark 7:27) and to be honest, if I had been the Gospel writer, I think I would have let it slide. Surely, he didn't mean it. It's one thing to have a bad day, but this poor lady came to Jesus pleading for him to heal her daughter and before anyone could say, "Would you please pass the jelly?" Jesus called the poor woman with the sick daughter a dog.

Dr. Clifton Black, one of today's premier New Testament theologians who grew up in nearby Thomasville, says that we spend an awful lot of time trying to get Jesus off the hook on this one. But the truth is, he said what he said and try as we may, we can't erase it.

One insightful member of our study group asked the question, "If Jesus came to one of our churches today, would we be offended? Or would he even want to stay?" Jesus might well be bored to death in some of our churches, but my hunch is he would be kicked out before he got fed up and walked out on his own. You see, Jesus has something to offend everyone.

Liberal churches would be offended because Jesus is a conservative. He spends a lot of time quoting scripture and talking about repentance and the straight and narrow path to salvation. He commissions evangelists to go and preach the gospel and baptize the saved. He talks about being born again and even lectures on the final judgment and insists that those who don't pass the test will be cast into the eternal lake of fire. He blasts those who abuse children, saying it would be better that they be drowned with a millstone around their neck.

Conservative churches would be offended because Jesus is a liberal. His chief cause is the poor, and he believes in taxing the wealthy. He wants everyone to be helped, even those who don't deserve it. He would not exclude anyone, but all would be welcome in Jesus' church: sinners, drug users, prostitutes and illegal immigrants. He certainly wouldn't exclude someone because they are gay or because they were the wrong color. And don't expect Jesus to support the Second Amendment. When the disciples showed up at the Garden of Gethsemane with concealed weapons, he was not very happy with them. And if you try to explain to Jesus that if he won't protect himself he just might get himself killed, I think he would say: "Well?"

And for those of us who like to use the word "moderate," I don't think Jesus was moderate about anything — he might not even give us the time of day.

The thing that we must always remember when we study the Gospels is that the "bad guys" represent exactly who we are today — the religious establishment. We are the Pharisees, the scribes and the religious authorities. We must decide what is more important, keeping the establishment in business or following Jesus — even when he offends us.

Black, in commenting on Jesus' offensive words to the woman, said, "The deeper question with which Mark's readers must come to terms is whether she or he can follow a Christ so offensive as to die by crucifixion."

During this season of Lent, it would do us well to reconsider the true message of the cross in all of its dimensions: offensive, scandalous and penetrating. And then if we are not also abashed, in Black's words, "it is a safe bet that Jesus has been domesticated and his gospel has been neutered."

Whatever Jesus meant when he called the lady a dog can be discussed for a long time, but one thing is crystal clear — when they nailed him to the cross there was no mistaking its meaning. And if we are not offended to the point of falling on our knees and surrendering our lives to him, then we are nothing more than dogs.

A Reason To Smile

To my Dear Bess:

Smile!

That’s what you always told me—smile!  No matter what happened, good or bad, we always need to smile.  I remember one hot summer day, we were in the back yard shucking corn—well; you were doing most of the shucking.  Mother had gone to visit a new baby in town and you told me that people had it all mixed up.  “We should be rejoicing when someone dies,” you said; “because all of their troubles are finally over.  But a baby is born into a world of pain, heartache and problems—that’s when we should weep.”

I didn’t know what you were talking about, Bess.  Not then, anyway.  There were a lot of things I didn’t realize back then. I never thought about the fact that you were black and I was white.  Even though we said you were like a member of our family, I know now that wasn’t true.  You didn’t sit down to eat with us like a family member would.  It never crossed my mind that it wouldn’t have been “proper.”  Even though my parents would never tolerate any racist remarks or jokes, you were still “the help.” 

You never graduated from high school because you left school to work for my grandmother. You couldn’t walk down Main Street.  You couldn’t eat in the same restaurants, drink out of the same water fountain or even ride in the same seats on the bus as white people. I’m sure I would have been welcomed at your church, but there was a man who carried a gun to our church to make sure you knew you were not welcomed there. I remember the well-worn path behind your house that led to the outhouse.  We had two indoor bathrooms at our house before you even had one.

But in spite of all of your troubles, you still loved me and cared for me like I was your own.  And in many ways, I was.  I loved you and looked up to you.  You had a way of putting everything in the right perspective.  You taught me so much about life, about forgiveness, and about faith. I remember coming down to visit you at your little house.  There were three pictures hanging on the wall:  Jesus, John F. Kennedy, and Martin Luther King, Jr.  I didn’t understand why you had those three pictures, but I do now.  Three men who believed in equality.  Three men who gave you hope.   

I remember watching Dr. King speak from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial.  I was nine years old and I was watching it with you.  My small heart soared with his eloquent words of justice and equality.  I wanted his dream to become my dream.  I wanted to live in a world where people were judged by the content of their character rather than the color of their skin.  I remember you watching, but not saying much.  Seems like you knew more trouble was to come.

Five years later, I remember very well.  It was April 9, 1968 and we were watching Dr. King’s funeral service.  It was the first time I ever saw you cry and I thought about those three pictures, those three men—symbols of hope—all three dead.  You were wiping your tears with your apron.  There were still dishes to be washed. 

I called you right before you died and remember what you told me?  You told me to smile, because you were going to that glorious place where there would be no trouble, no more killings, and no more pain. I tried to smile, but it was hard to because of the tears.

I’m writing to let you know that, while I know you always smile in heaven, we have a reason to smile here.  Last month our City Council voted to name a major street, Martin Luther King, Jr. Boulevard.  I’ve been an advocate for the name change, just as I was for the adoption of the MLK holiday in our county a number of years back.  And not just because it was the right thing to do.  It’s because of you Bess.  Because I can still see you wiping away your tears with your apron as they buried Martin Luther King.  I want you to know that Dr. King’s legacy did not die that day—and it never will. I have tried to live my life working for his dream.  When I take a stand for equality and justice that some may not like, I think of you.  And I think I see you smiling. And there are no more dishes to do.

                                                                                                                                                          

Happy New Year From the Hospital

How did you welcome the New Year?  What would you think about spending it in the hospital?  That's where we were when 2013 arrived earlier this week. 

My wife, Joyce, had a knee replacement on New Year's Eve at Wake Forest Baptist--Lexington Medical Center.  Having surgery on a holiday week didn't sound very appealing at first, but the more we thought about it we decided that is was a great time to have surgery.  There were fewer patients in the unit and the care we received was extraordinary. 

As a minister, I visit the hospital frequently and experience healthcare from the pastoral perspective.  For the past six years I have been privileged to serve on the Lexington Hospital Board and have experienced healthcare from the administrative perspective.  But this was different.  My wife was the patient.  This time I was on the other side. 

The quality of Joyce's medical care was excellent.  Dr. Gordon Kammire, one of the best orthopedic surgeons anywhere, performed the surgery.  His warm, personable and engaging manner was refreshing and reassuring.  The Lexington Orthopedic Group is one of the finest in the state.  There is a dedicated wing of the hospital affectionately called "Joint Camp," reserved for their patients.  The first thing they tell you is:  "You are not here because you are sick.  You're just having some body repair."

Patients have their first session at Joint Camp a week before their surgery.  They are told exactly what to expect, what is expected from them, and every question is answered.  C. J. Miller is the head nurse and with her optimism, enthusiasm, and great sense of humor, patients can't help but excel.  All of the nurses, Christine, Janie, Melissa, and Annie, were kind, personable, skilled, and caring.

The morning after surgery Monette Frye, the director of a truly remarkable Physical Therapy department, helped Joyce stand and take her first steps with her new knee.  Her nurturing spirit and heartfelt encouragement were contagious.  We are very blessed to have such competent and compassionate healthcare professionals in our community.

We know that we received the best possible medical treatment, but we received something more--genuine care, sincere kindness, and authentic compassion.  Everyone, from the hospital administration, the doctors, the nurses, the technicians, the therapists, the cafeteria workers and the custodians were friendly, helpful, and concerned about our well being.  Our church family and friends in the community prayed for healing and expressed their concern.  Friends and family expressed their prayerful support on Facebook. Everywhere I went people asked about Joyce. Healing is so much more than a hospital, healing is found in a community.  When a community displays compassion and concern and works to provide optimal medical treatment for all of its citizens, the entire community becomes whole.

We ate black-eyed peas and collard greens in the hospital on New Year's Day, but not because we needed good luck—true healing transcends luck.  We realized that it wasn't that we were in the hospital on January 1 that mattered, but as the New Year dawned we were being healed.  New beginnings start with healing, not just in body, but in spirit, in our families and community. 

Happy New Year everyone!  My prayer is that 2013 will be a time of good health, happiness, and healing—for all of us and for our community. 

                                                      

AN AMAZING WEEK

  It has been an amazing week.  The week started with Joyce having knee replacement surgery early Monday morning at Lexington Medical Center.  The surgery was very successful and despite the usual predictable pain and challenges following such a surgery, things have gone very well.  We had such a positive experience at the hospital that I devoted my religion article to the experience.  I will post the article on this blog.

   I received a call Monday from the Everhart family informing me that Hazel Everhart died that morning.  I had conducted her husband's funeral (Sam) the day before Thanksgiving.  Now, less than six weeks later, Hazel died.  I talked to the family on New Year's Day and we had Hazel's funeral on Wednesday afternoon.

  Wednesday morning I attended the funeral of our good friend and former next-door neighbor, Evelyn Oates.  Bob and Evelyn are choice people.  We have traveled together, they were faithful to the Bible Studies, they have made a remarkable difference in this community.  The Presbyterian Church was not surprisingly packed to the brim.

  Even though Evelyn was suffering from many different health issues, she refused to give in.  I don't think Evelyn and Bob had missed a single Bible Study Field Trip.  The last time I saw Evelyn she wanted to make sure their names were on the list for this year's trip to Richmond.  I told Evelyn they were always number one on the list.  Evelyn was number one in many different categories.

  Early in the week we learned that George Wynn was having major surgery on Friday.  George and Jeri Wynn have become very special friends.  They traveled to the British Isles with us this past summer.  We noted on the trip that George was having difficulty walking.  He started seeing specialists after our return and learned in October that he had a tumor in his aorta.  The doctors felt that this contributed to numerous health problems that George was experiencing.  The tumor had to come out.   It would be major surgery and very risky.  There would be a chance George would not survive the surgery itself.  There was a chance he would be paralyzed.  They scheduled the surgery for the Monday after Thanksgiving.

  The night before Thanksgiving George started to experience serious problems.  He was rushed to Baptist Hospital on Thanksgiving morning and it was discovered that he had a blood clot in his spine.  Neurosurgeons started operating late afternoon and finished around 8:00 pm.  The first few days after surgery were very difficult.  George did not have the use of his legs.  Those were dark days.

  Slowly George started to recover but he still did not have the use of his legs.  He was moved to the Sticht Rehabilitation Center where he worked diligently with great determination to regain the use of his legs.  George was making great progress.  He was showing tremendous improvement in his leg functions.  But there was one dark shadow that would not go away.  He still needed the surgery to remove the tumor from his aorta.  The doctors told him he could not live without it.

  The big question was when.  Does he continue rehab in hopes that a stronger body gives him a better chance?  Or does waiting allow the tumor to grow and do more damage.  All of this was weighed with the understanding that the emergency Thanksgiving surgery was making the tumor removal even more risky.  George decided he didn't need to wait any longer.  It was time for the big surgery.  It would be on Friday, January 4.

   George and Jeri started making plans.  They redid their will.  George was having heart to heart talks with friends and family.  He planned his funeral.  The doctors were also getting ready.  They ordered a CT scan to determine if the tumor had grown.  All was ready for the major surgery to begin.

  Joyce was discharged from the hospital Thursday around noon.  We drove to Abbott's Creek Rehabilitation Center and admitted Joyce for her therapy.   It took most of the afternoon.  When she was finally settled she said, "I want you to go to Winston to check on George."

  George was alone in his room.  We had a good visit.  George told me that he had a sense of peace about the surgery.  Jeri came in and we talked more about the plans for Friday.  George told me some of the plans for his funeral even though I insisted that I had reached my quota and a funeral was not an option.  Then we prayed.  I prayed that God would bring George through the surgery, that he would experience healing, and that God would grant his surgeon wisdom.  I had barely concluded the prayer when the surgeon walked in the room and said, "We have a change of plans."

  The surgeon explained that while he was evaluating the CT scan in preparation for the surgery, he was shocked to see that it had decreased in size "significantly."  This tells us two things he said:  1) the tumor, if it is a tumor, is benign.  And 2) it may not even be a tumor; it might be a blood clot.

  We were all stunned by the news.  The surgeon said he wanted George to have another scan in two months and see what has happened.  There is a good possibility that George may never have to have this surgery.

  All Jeri could say was, "Wow!". When the surgeon left she looked at me and said, "I think we just witnessed a miracle."

  George said, "I think we should pray again" and we did--a prayer of thanksgiving.

  What an amazing week!

A VETERAN'S DAY STORY

      Earl Parker was in love with Viola Shrader, one of the prettiest and most popular girls in town.  He was a country boy who grew up on a beef farm in the rolling hills of Virginia.  He loved baseball and hunting, but he loved Viola more.  They married in 1940.  Times were hard, money was tight and Earl wanted to provide for his new wife so he joined the National Guard for “a dollar a day.”

 

       The world as Earl and Viola knew it changed forever on when the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor on December 7, 1941 propelling the United States into the Second World War. Suddenly the National Guard training became much more serious and intense.  Earl was rarely able to return home and see his beloved Viola.  As Adolf Hitler continued his relentless assault across Europe, Earl and his company learned that they were going overseas.  Viola had something very important that she needed to tell her husband and she wanted to do it in person.  She made a desperate, ill-advised trip to New York to try to see him before they were shipped to England.  But she couldn’t get close to him.  The camp was sealed; she couldn’t even leave a message telling him that she was expecting their first child.

     Earl didn’t learn that he would be a father until he arrived in Britain. Convinced that the baby would be a boy, he and Viola agreed via letters to name him Danny.  When he received the letter informing him that his baby had been born, Viola shared that the baby’s name was indeed Danny.  That was the name of his baby daughter. 

     Earl was anxious for the war to be over so he could go home and see his little girl.  In December of 1943 he wrote his baby a letter:  “Dear Danny, Maybe Santa Claus will bring you lots of things if you are a good little girl.  I sure hope I will be there next Christmas.  I don’t suppose you will know your Daddy when he comes home.  I don’t believe it will take us long to get acquainted.  Don’t tell Mother that I said this, but I love her a lot and think she is real sweet.  I wish I could be there with you and Mother tonight.  With all my love, Daddy.”

    Earl wrote home at least once a week, but as June 1944 approached the letters became infrequent and eventually stopped.  Everyone knew that the inevitable invasion was imminent.  Earl would be among the first men to hit the beach at Normandy.  He knew there would be massive casualties.  Some were even referring to his company as the “Suicide Wave.”  On June 4 the soldiers boarded the British troopship the Empire Javelin.  As it crossed the choppy English Channel in the middle of the night Earl stood at the railing with some of his hometown friends.  “It was a solemn thing,” a friend recalled.  “We sat around and talked about what we would do when we got back home.”  Suddenly, Earl pulled out a picture of his sixteen-month-old daughter, Danny and said:  “If I could just see her once, I wouldn’t mind dying.” 

     Earl’s friend cried almost sixty years later as he recalled the story. 

    Danny went overseas in 1997 and visited the beaches of Normandy.  She carried her father’s dog tags, his purple heart, and the letter he wrote to her in December of 1943.  She couldn’t visit his grave because they never found his body, but she stood before a wall in the Garden of Missing and among the 1,557 names she found the name of her daddy, Earl Parker. 

     Tomorrow is Veteran’s Day.  We will honor all the brave men and women who have served our nation with valor and courage.  And we will remember men like Earl Parker who never had the privilege of holding his baby girl named Danny.  Because of men like Earl Parker, we continue to be free. 

                                                                       

(Earl Parker was one of “The Bedford Boys” as chronicled by Alex Kershaw, 2003)

    

In The Eyes of A Child

 

                                                                                                           

                 I see it in the eyes of a child:  excitement, wonder, innocence, hope, and joy.  On Christmas Eve as the children gather during our Candlelight Service, I see the lights of our Chrismon Tree reflected in their shining eyes that are brimming with wonder and expectation.  The love, trust, and innocence are so real that you can feel it.

        This week I will see the excitement and sheer joy sparkling in the eyes of children as they walk through the front gate of the Davidson County Agricultural Fair.  They will point to the Ferris Wheel and then the Merry Go Round as the magical neon lights of the Midway are reflected in their eyes that are wide open with bubbling enthusiasm.  The children will be so excited they won’t know where to start as moms and dads anxiously try to keep them in tow. 

        I see wonder and happiness reflected in the eyes of my grandchildren as simple things, such as enjoying ice cream or catching lightening bugs, become an amazing revelation as if they are experiencing the world for the very first time.  At nighttime they cuddle up and squeal with delight with eyes all aglow as I promise them a bedtime story, a “One Day Story” they call it, because I always begin with the words, “One day.”   Then a little arm falls around my neck and I hear the words “I love you G-Daddy” as sleepy eyes reflect perfect peace and trust and all is right with their little world. 

        But sadly for many children right here in Davidson County, all is not right with their world and it too is reflected in their eyes.  I see fear in the eyes of a child whose life is full of turmoil, threats, and violence and who never hears the words, “I love you.”  I see despair in the eyes of a child who is hungry and knows there is nothing in the house to eat.  I see anger in the eyes of a child who has every good thing taken away and distrust in the eyes of a child who has been hurt and betrayed by adults.  Nothing is more painful than to look into the eyes of a child and see hurt, sadness, and despair.

        That is precisely why members of the Lexington Kiwanis Club will take leave from their “day jobs” this week and go to work at the fair.  Doctors, lawyers, accountants, realtors, farmers, pharmacists, administrators, bankers, dentists, policemen, funeral directors, educators, and even a preacher will park cars, sell tickets, give directions, manage crowds, and welcome everyone to the Davidson County Agricultural Fair.  It will be a big and exciting week full of good food, thrilling rides, farm animals, blue ribbons, beauty contests, foot-stomping music, and just plain fun.  But all of that is secondary to the reason why the members of the Kiwanis Club run the fair. 

        You see, all of the money that is raised by your admission to the fair goes to operate and maintain a summer camp, Kamp Kiwanis, where we welcome children whose eyes are often full of hurt and fear.  Each summer around 180 children who are selected by the Department of Social Services will spend a week at our camp where they will be loved, encouraged, and affirmed.  We provide good food, a safe, nurturing environment, and a fun-filled week of camp activities.  As the week progresses, we begin to see a change, a change that is reflected in their eyes.  Fear gives way to trust, suspicion to acceptance, and anger gives way to love.  And at the end of the week, eyes that have finally reflected happiness and joy are full of tears as the children don’t want to say good-bye. 

        I’m one of those guys who will be working at the fair this week.  There are many other things I could be doing, but if I ever question why I am there, I simply remember what I have seen.  Come and join us at the fair.  It begins Monday afternoon and continues all week through Saturday.  You will have fun but you will also be making a difference in the life of a child.  I know you will because I have seen it in their eyes.