Friday, January 30, 2015

Recalling the Boys of New Orleans


I was just a little boy, around 10 years old as I recall.  I was a good kid too, always doing what my momma told me to do.  I was with a bunch of other good little Protestant boys from small southern towns attending summer camp in Tennessee and we were having a great time.  At night we would gather around a big campfire under the star-filled skies and hear wonderful stories mingled in with an occasional ghost story to keep us from running away.

        The older boys, who had been to camp before, told us different kinds of stories that were much more frightening than the ghost stories the counselors told.  They told of a group of boys who came to camp every summer from New Orleans.  They were big and mean, bullies in every way.  They terrorized the smaller boys, taking their food, hanging their underwear in the trees, and sometimes teaching them a lesson with their fists that they would never forget.  There were stories of boys who were beaten and tied to a tree, covered with honey to attract the bugs and left for hours.  The legend of the New Orleans boys was growing bigger and more terrifying each and every day.

        I will never forget the sight of the big charter bus pulling up in front of the lodge and watching those big, bad boys getting off and surveying their domain.  All the little fearful Protestant boys who listened to their mommas looked on with fear.  Up to this point camp had been fun and carefree, but now, it was all about survival.  The New Orleans boys were back!

        They staked their claim the first few hours of their arrival.  I watched one crying boy being taken to First Aid with a bloodied nose.  Several others told of the New Orleans boys ransacking their cabins for snacks and tearing up a picture of one boy’s momma and daddy.  I managed to stay out of their way.

        The leader of the New Orleans boys was a tall, lanky boy named Jeff.  Jeff was street smart and talked with a strange accent, punctuating every sentence with a vocabulary that this good Baptist boy had never heard before. Jeff had a group of bodyguards who followed him around doing his dirty work. 

        One day I was walking into the back door of my cabin and Jeff simultaneously walked through the front door.  The cabin was empty and we were all alone.  He stopped and stared at me.  His silent message was loud and clear.  Get out of here little boy, this is my house.   But I didn’t move.  I stood still and stared back.  Finally, with much irritation and anger that I had not trembled in his presence he shouted, “What!” 

        I don’t know what came over me or what made me say what I did.  Jeff was much larger and definitely more intimidating than I could ever be.  I wasn’t a little John Wayne by any stretch of the imagination, but something inside of me caused me to speak and I heard my trembling voice say, “Jeff, you’re not nearly as tough as you think you are.”   

        That was the last thing I remember.  Jeff made quick work of me, leaving me beaten and battered between two footlockers. 

        A few days later I received a box of brownies from home.  Most of the good little Protestant boys got care packages.  The New Orleans boys did not.  My first thought was that I needed to hide these from the bullies, but then I heard another voice speaking to me.

        I found Jeff.  “What do you want?” he demanded, thinking I should have learned my lesson.  “I wanted to share something with you,” I said.   I opened the box of brownies.  His eyes widened and he said, “Those look good.”   “Take one,” I told him.  And he did.  We sat down together and ate the whole box!

        Jeff didn’t become my best friend that day, but he didn’t bother me anymore.  In fact, he would speak to me like we were friends.  And his boys stopped terrorizing my friends.  The voice that I heard that day was a Bible verse that I had learned in Sunday School.  “Love your enemies.  If someone strikes you on the cheek, turn the other cheek.”  

        I took Jesus at his word and discovered that he knows what he is talking about.

 

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Celebrating The Light in The Darkness


Happy New Year!

        I hope you have been able to spend some time reflecting on the past year and looking forward to the year ahead.  One of my greatest hopes for all of my friends and family is good health in the year ahead.  Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, maybe it’s the healthcare calamity, or maybe it’s because I spend so much of my time with those who are sick, but I have come to realize that good health is one of our greatest and most significant blessings.   

        This truth came home to me during the month of December with two holiday gatherings that were powerful, poignant, and compelling.  Both were Christmas celebrations for cancer patients. 

        The first was the week after Thanksgiving when our church hosted a Christmas Dinner for patients of the Wake Forest Baptist Lexington Cancer Center.  This event is sponsored by Lexington Medical Center and is planned, coordinated, and implemented by Mary Miranda Clark, a cancer survivor who is a dedicated volunteer at the Cancer Center.  She actually started this Christmas tradition a number of years ago in her home and it has grown to the over 200 people who attended this Christmas. 

        It is a night of great joy, laughter, and hope.  Mary Miranda turns our fellowship hall into a winter wonderland.  The guests are treated to a delicious meal, to Christmas music, door prizes, and festive entertainment provided by the doctors and nurses of the Cancer Center.  For one special night cancer patients have a reason to smile and enjoy the holiday magic of the season. 

        Some of these same patients returned to our fellowship hall three weeks later when we hosted the Christmas party for Carolina Cancer Services that has just changed its name to Cancer Services of Davidson County.  Cancer is overwhelming whether one has adequate insurance and financial resources or not.  But when one is facing the trauma of cancer without insurance and without any resources, it is even more devastating.  These are the people who are served by Cancer Services of Davidson County.

        My wife, Joyce, and I watched and welcomed people as they made their way into the church, some struggling to make the short walk from their car.  Once again the guests were treated to Christmas music, delicious food, and holiday joy.   I listened as my son, Ray Nance, who is Director of Patient Services, talked to the patients about the light coming into the darkness—the true message of Christmas.  Looking around the room I saw people whose lives are surrounded by darkness, but on this night they had a message of hope and light.  I saw their smiles, heard their words of gratitude, and was blessed by their kindness.

        Over 1,700,000 Americans will be diagnosed with cancer this year.  Cancer is the second leading cause of death in our nation, surpassed only by heart disease.  Approximately 1,500 people in our nation will die every day of cancer.  You have over a one in three chance of having cancer in your lifetime.  You see, good health is such a rich blessing!

        As I reflect on this past Christmas, these two events stand out as highlights.  Our church has a beautiful Christmas Eve Candlelight Communion service in which we turn out all the lights and extinguish all the candles to experience a moment in the darkness.  As I stand in silence for a moment, absorbing the darkness in our packed sanctuary, I always think about people who are suffering, those with cancer, those who are terminally ill, and those whose lives have been shattered.  I talk about the darkness that preceded creation, but then I talk about the light because the first word of creation is light.  Let there be light!   And I light the Christ Candle to symbolize the coming of the light into a world of darkness. 

        Here’s a little secret.  I use one of those gas lighters, but I worry that it may not light.  So I have a pack of matches in my pocket—just in case!

        There are a lot of people suffering with cancer who have real worries about where they will find light.  We, who are blessed with light and health, can make a difference in their lives.  We can bless the lives of those who suffer like Mary Marinda does.  We can support Cancer Services of Davidson County.  We can share our blessings.

        I pray you will be blessed this New Year with light, health, and joy!