A Pigskin Conundrum

        Two teams are preparing for the Super Bowl.  One is led by an old-school traditional quarterback with a proven record.  He has always done things the right way.  He’s not cocky or braggadocios. When he scores a touchdown he politely hands the football to the referee and jogs off the field, not placing himself in the limelight.  The other team is led by a young, brash quarterback who rubs a lot of people the wrong way.  While the older, proven quarterback is methodically going about preparing for the game with his systematic work-ethic, the young guy is parading around, bragging about his team and even guaranteeing that he will win the game!

        What you didn’t hear that he has guaranteed his team will win?  He sure did, while he was lying on the beach surrounded by beautiful girls.   You didn’t know he was at the beach?  Who are you talking about? 

        I’m talking about the young, brash, upstart quarterback of the New York Jets, Joe Willie Namath, who famously guaranteed that the New York Jets would beat the Baltimore Colts and Johnny Unitas in Super Bowl III—and they did!

        No one thought the New York Jets, the American Football League Champion, would have a chance against the National Football League Champion, the Baltimore Colts.  The Colts were led by an old-school traditional quarterback who was past his prime, Johnny Unitas.  The Jets were led by Broadway Joe, who was the perfect representative of the upstart American Football League.  Most people viewed the AFL the way most of us look at the Arena Football League today.  Sure it was new, fun, and entertaining, but it wasn’t on the same level as the storied, traditional NFL.  Most traditionalists were upset that they were even having to play the game.  Hadn’t Vince Lombardi and the Green Bay Packers proven in the first two Super Bowls that the NFL was far superior?  Surely the mighty Colts would crush the upstart Jets and expose the league and the cocky young quarterback for who they really were---a second rate team and league. 

        Johnny Unitas was definitely past his prime.  In fact, he didn’t even start the game.  Johnny Unitas was the winning quarterback in the “Greatest Game Ever Played:” the 1958 NFL Championship Game between the Colts and the New York Giants.  Johnny Unitas led the Colts down the field to a sudden-death overtime win to claim the title.  Even though that was ten years before, old-school traditionalists knew that an old Johnny Unitas was still head and shoulders above a young Joe Namath. 

        I watched Joe Namath play football for Bear Bryant and Alabama.  He led the Tide to the 1964 National Championship.  So I was pulling for Joe and the Jets, right?  Wrong!  I was a traditionalist, I was old school (even when I was a kid) I didn’t think the Jets belonged on the same field as the Colts.  I was pulling for the NFL all the way! 

        Even though I pulled for Joe Namath in college, I didn’t like his antics.  I was fond of quoting Bear Bryant who said, “When you get in the end zone, act like you’ve been there before.” 

        Here we are 47 years later getting ready for the Super Bowl.  You have a proven, old-school traditional quarterback in Payton Manning who doesn’t showboat or brag and a young, upstart, braggadocios kid who loves to dance and prance around on the field like he’s in a Broadway Show.  And don’t forget the fact that this kid is from Auburn!  Alabama’s archenemy!  So there’s no question who I’m pulling for, Payton Manning, right?  Wrong!  

        I love Cam Newton!  He’s the best thing that has happened to the NFL (Can you say “No Fun League!”)  He is just having fun!  And he is reminding all of us that football is “just a game.” 

        Come Super Bowl night I hope to be dabbing and smiling as Cam dances his way to a great victory.  And if you don’t understand, just say I am a “Pigskin Conundrum.”  Hey, I lost that game 47 years ago.  I’m not about to lose this one!

       

Whatever Happened to Civility and Kindness?

            I can hear my grandmother now:  “If you can’t say anything good about someone, then don’t say anything at all.”  That was not just grandmotherly advice, it was her mantra; it was the way she lived.  She believed everyone had good qualities and rather than focus on a person’s faults, we should affirm their goodness and self-worth.  As Christians, we are expected to “Be ye kind one to another” as the King James Bible proclaims. 

        We were taught to be kind, considerate, and understanding.  Not only was it not Christian, but it was just plain disrespectful, to malign, insult, or openly question the character of someone else, no matter how much of a scoundrel they might be. Name-calling, insults, and slander were beneath the dignity of good, decent Christians. 

There were times when we would have fights with our siblings or other kids.  They were not really fights, but more name-calling and swapping insults.  That was when we were forced to say something “good” about each other.  We may not have meant it, but we were able to shake hands and make up and by the next day all was forgotten. 

        Whatever happened to civility and kindness?   Are the men and women who are seeking the world’s most powerful office not intelligent or mature enough to exercise dignified decorum in the public arena?  Can we not see the incongruity of thousands of people cheering juvenile behavior that would result in their own children being punished for doing the same?

        Political polarization has increased dramatically in the past 25 years.  There are many serious issues in our nation on which we have fundamental differences.  We need leaders who will engage in an open, honest discussion and a dignified and civil debate that is grounded in a respect for all views with willingness to reason and compromise on essential differences.  There is no place for juvenile name-calling or brutish behavior.

        Negative campaigning is nothing new.  One of the ugliest political campaigns in American history was the 1800 election between President John Adams and his Vice President, Thomas Jefferson.  The two old friends, who had worked so well together on our nation’s independence, quickly resorted to vicious mudslinging and name-calling.  Jefferson called Adams a “hideous hermaphroditical character” and Adams responded by calling Jefferson “a mean-spirited, low-lived fellow, the son of a half-breed Indian squaw sired by a mulatto father.”  That was only the beginning.  It got worse. 

        But 12 years later the two old friends turned enemies, started writing letters to each other.  They reclaimed their friendship through reasonable, respectful and civil discourse.  They discussed issues as wise and mature men, not as angry children.  Their letters have become one of the most remarkable literary gems in American History.

        Abraham Lincoln was one of our wisest presidents.  When he was elected to office in a highly contentious election, he didn’t demean or humiliate his opponents, he appointed them to offices of power as members of his cabinet.  Lincoln believed that his opponents were good men with different ideas.  By bringing people with essential differences to the table they all learned to compromise for the common good and it probably saved our nation during the Civil War. 

        There are valuable lessons to be learned from the wisdom of Abraham Lincoln and the reconciliation of John Adams and Thomas Jefferson.  My prayer is that we can elevate our political debate to a higher level so that it is conducted with dignity, respect, and civility.  

Isn’t there something more important than being a Republican, Democrat, or Independent?   Yes, there is---being an American.

        And isn’t there something more important than being an American?  Yes, there is—being a Christian.  

        Isn’t it about time we all starting acting like Christians?  Yes, it is and especially time for the men and women who are seeking the most powerful office in our land to act like—adults!

                                                                       

                                                                     

Let Me Walk With My Brother In Perfect Harmony

        Our Christmas Eve Candlelight Communion Service is the best attended event of the year at First Baptist Church on West Third Avenue.  It is also one of our most traditional services; little has changed over the past 30 years. But this year we did something different.  After the singing of Silent Night with lighted candles in the darkened sanctuary, I spoke of the darkness we have experienced in our world over the past few months as a result of terrorism.  Then I asked the worshipers to hold their candles high if they believe that light is greater than darkness and peace on earth is possible as we sang, “Let There Be Peace On Earth.”   Everyone did and it was a powerful moment.

        My greatest prayer as we enter 2016 is that we find peace on earth.  I realize that most people feel this is an impossible dream, but I have to believe it can happen.  If I truly believe that the light is greater than the darkness, that perfect love casts out fear, that Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and that the Kingdom of God is love and peace, then I most also believe that peace is possible, yes it truly is!  But I also know that, as the song proclaims, it must begin with me. 

        What is the greatest threat to peace?  Most of us would quickly respond that it is the Islamic State commonly known as ISIS.  They want to establish an Islamic theocratic state and they also want to destroy all who would defy them.  Western values are an anathema to ISIS. There is no question that ISIS is our enemy and must be defeated.  But is ISIS our greatest threat?

        We will never find peace until we learn to value every human life and seek to understand and respect those who are different.  Anytime a person, a group, a religion, or any movement claims absolute truth and degrades, maligns, or vilifies those who have different views, peace will not be possible.   ISIS is a sick perversion of Islam.  ISIS does not represent the true spirit of the Islamic faith or the great majority of the Muslim people.  ISIS is our enemy; Islam is not. 

        Islam is the fastest growing religion in the world and in the US.  At the present time approximately 31% of the world’s population is Christian and 24% is Muslim.  It is predicted that by the year 2050 the number of Muslims will equal the number of Christians.  If we are going to have peace on earth, I must first understand more than I now do about the Muslim faith and secondly, I must learn to respect them and live peaceably with them despite the fact I disagree with them.

        Let me be clear.  I am a Christian.  I am not a Jew.  I am not a Muslim.  But I have more in common with Jews and Muslims than I realize.  We all worship one God.  We have the stories of Adam and Eve, Noah, Abraham, and Moses in common.  We share many of the same values.  Muslims and Jews also believe that Jesus was a great prophet.  While I believe Jesus is the Son of God and Jesus provides the way to God, this does not mean that I condemn or demonize those of the Muslim faith who disagree with me. 

        What would Jesus have us do?  Jesus taught us to love our enemy, but does Islam have to be our enemy?   I think Jesus would want us to treat people of the Islamic faith with dignity and respect.  We should learn to how to talk with one another.  Christians need to learn about Islam and Muslims need to learn about Christianity.  We should focus on what we have in common.  But most of all we should be a Christian in our attitudes, our actions, and our relationships to the Muslim people.  I have no doubt that we will find that our Muslim neighbors want the same things we do in life.  We want to find fulfillment and happiness, we want to make a positive difference in the world, we want to honor God and serve him by serving others, and we want peace on earth and good will to all humanity. 

        As the song says, “With God as our Father, brothers all are we.  Let me walk with my brother in perfect harmony.  Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me!”

       

                                                               

       

         

       

Should We Be Afraid? A Bibical Response to Terrorism

Soon after the cowardly and barbaric terrorists’ attacks on Paris, ISIS issued a threat to the United States. They claimed they were coming after Washington, D.C., then New York City, specifically Times Square. Should we be afraid?

Does the Bible have anything to say about terrorism? Oh, yes! The biblical world was full of terrorists and evil tyrants. Terrorism is nothing new; it is as old as sinful humanity. Terrorism operates out of fear, and the goal is to instill fear and uncertainty into the hearts of the people. This was the case in Isaiah 7, when not one but two evil kings sent a message to the people of Jerusalem much like the message ISIS sent to Washington and New York — we are coming after you, and we will destroy you.

The message had the desired effect for Isaiah 7:2 reports the hearts of the king and the people were shaken “as the trees of the forest are shaken by the wind.” This is when the prophet Isaiah confronted the king and said, “Don’t listen to the terrorists. It doesn’t matter what they say. What matters is what God says.”

And what did God say? Keep watch, keep calm, do not fear and do not lose heart. We are to be vigilant and cautious, calm and deliberate, but most of all we are not to be afraid, and we should never give up. But how is it possible to “fear not” when we have seen terrorists inflict so much death and destruction?

How is it possible? “God is sending a sign,” Isaiah reported: “Behold, a virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and his name shall be called Immanuel” (which means, God is with us). One of the most powerful promises in Scripture was given in response to a terrorist threat.

It would be over 600 years before the Virgin Mary wrapped her newborn baby in swaddling clothes and laid him in a manger, but Mary and Joseph were quickly forced to take their baby and flee to Egypt as refugees to escape the terrorism of Herod the Great. Three decades later the man “who was born of a virgin” was nailed to a cross by a ruthless government that ruled by fear and intimidation. Shortly before his execution he predicted that there would always be wars and rumors of wars. He said the terror will be so intense that the sun will be darkened and the stars will fall from the sky. (Mark 13)

I used to think this language was symbolic until 9/11. The sun was darkened on that cloudless September day, and the stars were falling from the sky along with the twin towers. And now we have not only the ISIS threat, but lone terrorists have attacked our children in schools, innocent citizens in malls and theaters, and even Wednesday night Bible studies have become terror filled.

But do you know what Jesus said right after he issued the dire warning in Mark 13? He said almost exactly the same thing Isaiah said to the king who was threatened by terrorism. Do not panic, do not fear and do not lose heart. Because, it’s not over. You can’t see it now, but a great day is coming when all that is wrong will be made right.

We are about to celebrate the coming of light into the darkness. No matter how deep, how forceful, how intimidating the darkness may be, it can never overcome and extinguish the light. Light is greater than darkness, love is greater than fear, for perfect love casts out fear.

The angel told Joseph that the baby’s name will be Immanuel, God with us. And God always has the final word. If God is for us, who can be against us? So hang on everybody. Don’t panic, don’t fear, don’t give up. We haven’t seen the end of this story, but we have a preview — we know what will happen. In the end, God wins! And evil, darkness, violence, wars and terrorism will be gone forever.

Lexington's Womderful Counselor

The Old Testament Prophet Isaiah foretold of the day when a “Wonderful Counselor” would come to God’s people to provide comfort, consolation, wisdom, and guidance.  Life is too hard and too complicated to make it on our own.  We all need a gifted counselor to help us navigate life’s turbulent waters.  Lexington has been richly blessed to have its own “Wonderful Counselor” for the past 35 years—Dr. Lee Dukes. 

        Lee Dukes is an icon in our community.  In October of 1980 he became the chaplain of Lexington Memorial Hospital, back when Lexington was a thriving community.  Furniture factories were in their prime, textiles were booming, jobs were plentiful, Lexington was growing and life was good.  The new hospital chaplain was creating new paths as he developed the Department of Pastoral Care and pioneered one of North Carolina’s first “Chaplain Associates” programs to provide continuous crisis intervention coverage. 

        In those early years Lee was directing four other hospital departments in addition to Pastoral Care:  Patient Relations, Social Services, Volunteer Services and the Adult Day Care, which was the predecessor of today’s Life Center of Davidson County.  Through all of this heavy responsibility, Lee was quietly developing a reputation as a wise and gifted counselor.  This is his strength, his calling, and his passion.  He has been present with countless numbers of families during times of trauma and grief, healed broken spirits, given new hope and direction to the despondent, helped those who were devastated by crisis to see new possibilities, provided wise counsel to professionals facing major career decisions, and he has been God’s faithful prophet, proclaiming comfort, redemption and grace to those in darkness.  Lee has helped untold numbers of individuals and families through times of distress.  Yes, Lee Dukes is Lexington’s “Wonderful Counselor.” 

        His long and respected tenure at Lexington Medical Center will end next month.  It is hard to picture Lexington hospital without Lee Dukes. A new chaplain has been called and a CareNet Office (a counseling service through Baptist Hospital) will begin offering services, but it just won’t be the same without Lee!

        Lee has blessed this community in so many ways.  In addition to the Life Center, he is also a founder of one of our greatest ministries, Hospice.  He has been one of the strongest advocates and leaders in the new FaithHealth initiative that will be continued by his successor.  In the hospital Lee is the face of bio-ethics and has facilitated this committee for decades.  He initiated and developed the first in-house assistance program for hospital employees to provide psychotherapy services when needed.  And there are scores of individuals who have not had the resources to receive Lee’s services, but he has provided them anyway. 

        Lee first came to Lexington in the 1970s as the Associate Minister of First United Methodist Church.  He has always been available as a trusted resource to the clergy and at least once a year leads an educational session with the ministerial association.  He is our community’s most vocal and eloquent spokesman for Mental Health.  No one has felt our state’s deficiency in dealing with the mental health crisis more than Lee.  He understands that we cannot have a healthy community without adequate mental health resources.  

        My family and I are personally indebted to Lee for his professional counsel and his personal compassion.  He has touched the lives of countless numbers of families in our community with wisdom and mercy. His retirement from the hospital is a monumental change for all of us, but because of his legacy Lexington is better equipped to do justice, to love kindness, and to walk humbly with our God. 

        Thank you Lee for being our “Wonderful Counselor!”

Recalling Miss Bobell, Bless Her Dear Heart

I remember Miss Bobell, bless her dear heart.  She had been the church organist for decades and was a blessing to the congregation, yes she was.  I knew Miss Bobell back in my college days, back before the war, when I was working at a church in LA (Lower Alabama).  She was old school, which was really old back then, believing that order and formality should prevail, even as sinners were flocking to the altar during revival time to escape everlasting perdition and persecution. 

Miss Bobell presided over the organ loft with a refined and dignified air which complimented the reserved and stately preacher, the venerable Dr. Graham.  She listened to Handel while most of the congregation listened to Hank Williams, and she tried, bless her heart she tried, to instill a little culture into that southern flock whose musical repertoire ventured little beyond Conway Twitty and Loretta Lynn.

Miss Bobell had every reason to be proud, for she reigned over one of the few pipe organs south of Montgomery.  While the organ itself was a fine instrument, installed by one of the great organ companies of the north and pampered by Miss Bobell to maintain its melodious integrity, the unwieldy pump that supplied the air flow had been overhauled by the good old boys down at Leroy’s Machine Shop much to Miss Bobell’s mortification.  When the deacons saw the estimate from the organ company up north (doing business with any company “up north” was suspect in LA) they decided that Leroy could fix the motor just fine at a fraction of the cost.  The result was that every time Miss Bobell turned on the switch there was a loud mechanical ruckus following by a sucking “whoooooosh” as the air powered by Leroy’s makeshift contraption invaded the delicate pipes of the organ. 

Now Miss Bobell was a woman of ritual and part of her regimented routine each Sunday was to turn off the organ at the beginning of Dr. Graham’s sermon, ostensibly so people could clearly hear the learned scholar without distraction.  It would take place after the anthem which she always accompanied with flamboyant dexterity.  She would first look over the congregation to bask in the glory of another musical triumph and then she would proudly take her seat at the back of the organ loft.  Then, just as Dr. Graham was announcing his hermeneutical theme of the day, she would hit the organ switch and there would be a noticeable “shwoooosh” as the air escaped the instrument, much like the sound of air brakes releasing on a truck or train.  The sound was a sedative to many of the faithful who would settle into their pews with their eyes fluttering as Dr. Graham commenced on his laborious message in his professorial monotone. 

Miss Bobell apparently also had the spiritual gift of discernment, especially when it came to predicting the welcomed conclusion of the preacher’s discourse.  She sensed when Dr. Graham was nearing the end of the sermon, or when she felt it was time for the sermon to end regardless of Dr. Graham’s intentions, for just as he was about to reach his conclusion, even if he was in a rare moment of inspired glory, she would flip the switch to engage Leroy’s pump resulting in the loud mechanical ruckus followed by the sucking “whoooosh.”   All over the congregation heads would jerk and eyes would open as people glanced at their watches before reaching for the books to sing the final hymn.  Poor old Dr. Graham, with a lamented look of defeat, would say a meek word in conclusion just before Miss Bobell launched into her glorious final musical selection. 

I look back on those wonderful days almost half a century later and realize than it took both Dr. Graham and Miss Bobell to make the Word of God complete.  Dr. Graham may have put people to sleep, but the content of his messages were rich in thought, deeply grounded in the Word of God and powerfully true.  Miss Bobell, bless her dear heart, may have been eccentric and regimented, but she lifted us up to the heavenly places with her glorious musical repertoire.  But the power---the real power may have come from the good old boys at Leroy’s Machine Shop.  They were the ones who stirred the church and woke the faithful from their slumber, much like the Holy Spirit. 

And that’s the way God works, through the good old boys at Leroy’s machine shop just as much as the scholarly Dr. Graham and the artsy Miss Bobell.  I remember them all, especially Miss Bobell, bless her dear heart!

 

                                                               

 

God is Stll in Control, Even in Old Age!

      You know the line from Robert Browning, “Grow old along with me!  The best is yet to be.”  He was kidding, right?  I’ve watched people struggle with the problems of old age my entire ministry.  I’ve counseled many people trying to decide how to best care for an aging parent.  It was only a matter of time before it happened to me.

        My family moved into the brick house on Main Street in the late 1950s.  All four children were raised there.  It was the scene of many happy Christmas celebrations, birthdays, family meals and gatherings, graduations, piano recitals—it was home.  This was the house where I grew up.  Mother has lived in the house for almost sixty years.  But when my wife and I made a quick trip to Alabama to see her at the beginning of the summer, we were shocked at how much she had declined.  Our biggest concern was her medication.  She has to take pills three times a day and it was confusing even to me.  I went to the store and purchased one of those big plastic medicine organizers that had the days of the week and the times of each day highlighted in big letters.  Joyce faithfully organized all of mother’s medicine and we went over the details with her several times before we left, but we were very concerned.

 A few days after we were there mother fell at night.  A few days later she fell again, and then she ended up in the hospital.  She went from the hospital to rehab and as I prepared to leave the country on a mission trip I prayed that they would keep her until I returned.  My brother and I both agreed that she did not need to go home, but convincing her of this was a different matter.  I told my brother that as soon as we got back from Belize I would come to Alabama so that we could all talk. 

We agreed on a time to have “the talk” with mother who was still in rehab.  My heart was heavy as I went into the room, but I should have known that God had already prepared the way.  Mother told me she knew she could not return home without help, but she didn’t really want that.   I told her that we didn’t want that either.

        “Why don’t we look at other options?” I asked just as my brother walked in the door.  We talked to her about assisted living and she was open to the possibility.   But now we had another obstacle---where would she go?  

        If I had any doubt as to whether God was still in control it was all answered in one phone call.  My brother told me that there was a relatively new, assisted living facility in the area where a lady from his church had a good experience, but he didn’t know much about it.  I looked it up online and picked up the phone to call.  As the call was being processed I thought to myself that this was probably the first of many calls I would be making.

        A friendly voice answered the phone and I asked to speak to the person who could tell me about the services they offered.  When she told me that she would be that person, I told her who I was and briefly shared our situation.  After a moment she said, “What did you say your name was?  Did you go to school in Hartselle?  What year did you graduate?”  When I answered the questions she said with delight, “Ray, this is Brenda!   We graduated together!” 

        Browning’s poem, “Rabbi Ben Ezra,” is a statement of total trust and confidence in God, even when the issues of aging seem to be claiming our future.  His point is that God has a plan for all of life, not just when we are young and healthy.  In a telling line he proclaims, “Earth changes, but thy soul and God stand sure.”  My mother is now a resident at the center where my high school classmate works.  She is still adjusting to the change, we all are, but I feel much better about the outcome.  As Browning said,   “Perfect I call Thy plan . . .I trust what Thou shalt do!”

                                                                       

 

 

Grow old along with me!

The best is yet to be,

The last of life, for which the first was made:

Our times are in His hand

 

A Blessing In Belize

 

 

 

            We returned this week from one of the most amazing mission trips I have ever experienced—and that’s saying a lot coming from an old codger who has been taking young people on mission trips since 1974.  Twenty-nine youth and adults from First Baptist and First United Methodist Churches joined together for an experience that brought three churches from two churches together in one powerful mission.

        We had the very best group of young people.  They took the initiative, never complained, exercised leadership, and opened their hearts that were overflowing with compassion and love.  We saw our youth come together and bond with the Belizean youth and each other.  The youth led in Bible School with enthusiasm and joy, they led the excellent devotions each night—they just called on me for announcements. They demonstrated maturity and wisdom.  They lived for each moment and celebrated the joy of God’s wonderful creation. 

        We started out with 30 children in Bible School the first day but by week’s end we had 70.   Our youth led worship at Belmopan Baptist Church last Sunday.  They spoke of their experience, sang beautiful songs, and were filled with the spirit of God.  Last Sunday night we attended a holiness service and our youth embraced this new experience with joy and excitement. 

        Some wonderful blessings came out of this trip.  One was working with Lee Mabe and the youth and leaders from FUMC.  Whatever differences we may have in our churches did not matter.  We were on a mission together, ambassadors for Christ.  We look forward to more joint endeavors in the future. 

        Everywhere we turned we saw the power of God.  From angels who appeared when we had flat tires (even one on the plane!) to children who remembered our youth from two years ago, to a children’s home where a simple gift became a powerful and emotional blessing—we knew God was smiling on our journey. 

        Perhaps two of the greatest blessings came on the last day of our mission.  Two years ago we celebrated baptism in the Caribbean Sea, but since we were with youth from the Methodist Church and baptism is understood differently in our churches, I didn’t consider this to be an option.  But I was approached by one of the Methodist youth who had never been baptized.  After quickly consulting with Lee to make sure he was with me if we get excommunicated, we all gathered on the south end of South Water Caye and without any notice, or bulletin, or planning—we had one of the most powerful baptisms I have ever experienced.  I told the youth this may be the closest thing to a true New Testament baptism we could have.  Many of our youth, and adults, were baptized or re-baptized in the warm Caribbean Sea.  And at the conclusion of the baptisms, the youth surrounded me and I, too, made the confession that Jesus is Lord and was baptized by all of them into the flowing waters of life. 

        That night we gathered for communion.  Rather than wine or grape juice we had pineapple juice and the bread was Casava Bread.  Just before we started, several of the Belizean workers—the cooks and maids—came to join us.  Lee Mabe and I served the elements, inviting all to join in the body and blood of Christ.   Then, when the service was over, the Belizean workers asked us to bless them.  We all gathered around these dear people, laying our hands on them as we prayed.  We prayed that God would bless them—but God had already blessed us in a powerful way we will never forg

Glasses of Kindness, Compassion, and Hope

        Twenty-five years ago I was the new kid on the block.  Moving to Lexington from a smaller town, I wasn’t exactly sure how I should go about becoming a part of the community.  Every community has its own culture, its own personality and I needed a mentor, an established citizen who would be a good example to follow.  That’s when I met Lee Jessup. 

        I first met Lee at the Kiwanis Club.  I was already a Kiwanis member, so I joined the Lexington Club and quickly discovered that Lee personified the spirit of the club.  He was engaging and affirming, full of life and energy.  It was evident that he was respected by the entire club, young and old.  The first thing I admired about Lee was that he was his own person.  We were both ministers, but Lee wasn’t your stereotypical, stodgy, and secluded First church preacher.  He didn’t follow the unwritten minister’s manual like I often did, Lee was writing his own manual and I liked his a lot better.  He was authentic, he was real and he was a vital force in our community. 

        Lee wrote a weekly religion column for The Dispatch.  He was the spiritual voice of the community.  Witty and entertaining, inspiring and grace-filled, his columns were about real life.  I couldn’t wait for the Saturday paper to come to read what Lee had to say. 

        I had only been in Lexington a couple of years when I heard that Lee was leaving.  My first thought was that Lexington would never be the same.  There would be a huge gap that no one else could fill.   Chad Killebrew, at The Dispatch, spoke to me one Sunday about becoming a religion writer for The Dispatch.  I would be joining three other writers to write a column once a month, rather than every week.  In my first column I paid a tribute to Lee and told the readers that there was no way I could take his place. 

        Then the big news came in 2001 that Lee was moving back to Lexington to become the president of the United Way.  It was a brilliant move by the United Way Directors.  They could not have selected a better person to inspire and motivate this community to compassionate giving and service.  Over the past 14 years Lee has become a good friend.  We attend a men’s Bible Study every Thursday morning.  We serve together in Kiwanis.  We cross paths at many community events. 

        A few years ago, Lee went with us to Belize as we were preparing for a medical mission trip.  He solicited hundreds of reading glasses that we later distributed across the country.  I had written the mayor of one Belizean city to inquire about using the community center for our medical clinic.  There is normally a rental fee that we were prepared to pay.  I mentioned in the letter that I would be visiting his town in advance of the medical team and that Dr. Jessup would be joining me.  I didn’t bother to explain what type of doctor he was.

        When we arrived we went to city hall to see the mayor.  It looked like we were getting the run around when I casually mentioned to the receptionist that Dr. Jessup was waiting with us and had glasses with him.  The next thing I knew people were rushing around, doors were opened and we were treated like VIPs.  The mayor, his brother, his wife, and all his cousins soon had new glasses and the community center was being offered free of charge.  The great Dr. Jessup had come to town and hearts were opened.

        For the past 14 years the great Dr. Jessup has helped us to see our community through glasses of compassion, kindness and hope. Davidson County has been blessed through his inspiring leadership.  The good news is that Lee will not be leaving town.  He will continue to be a vital force for good in our community.  And I know he will always be engaging and affirming, full of life and energy. 

        Lexington is a better city because of Lee’s presence and leadership.  We owe him a tremendous debt of gratitude.  Thank you, Lee.  I am grateful to call you my friend.

                                                       

If I Had Found The Box, I Might Have Found My Father

        I wish I could call my father on Father’s Day and tell him what a great dad he was. Daddy died in 1998.  Like King David, he was a man after God’s own heart.  A respected church and civic leader, my father was a man to be admired.  But also like King David, my father was a flawed man and sadly, that was all I could see in his last years. 

        When I was ordained in 1977 I asked the man I admired the most to speak at the service—my father.  He had always been a leader in the church and was a good public speaker.  I remember Daddy being the speaker on “Men’s Day” when I was a child.  He told a story about taking the family to the State Fair and somehow in the big crowd he lost me.  He said when we are lost God always comes searching for us and he described the great joy in finding his son and holding him in his arms. I remember it well and can still recall the fear of being lost as well as the elation of seeing my father. 

        I had a wonderful, happy childhood.  Daddy was everything a father is supposed to be.  But after I left home to go to school everything changed.

         We all have flaws and demons are relentlessly lurking in the shadows.  The demon of alcoholism invaded my father and suddenly I didn’t know him anymore.  I was devastated and felt betrayed.  My father was lost and that was when I made a tragic mistake.  I did not try to find him. 

        After Daddy died, I went to my childhood home to clean out the attic.  The attic in our home was not designed for storage, but that is what had happened.  There is one opening through the ceiling of the garage that is only accessible with a tall ladder.  When I entered the attic it was like stepping back in time.  Toys from our childhood, gadgets of every kind, and even an old aluminum Christmas tree filled the crowded space.  As I was carefully removing everything I saw a lone, isolated box at the far end. It was obvious that it had been placed far away from everything else.  I decided to wait and remove the box last.  What was it?  Why was it placed in such an inaccessible place?  There had to be a reason.

        After several days I made my last trip up the ladder and carefully brought the box down.  I opened it to reveal an olive green US Army coat.  I carefully laid the coat on the back patio as it saw the sunlight for the first time in decades.  It still had my father’s Master Sergeant  insignia on the sleeves. 

        Daddy served in the Korean War.  Like most veterans he didn’t talk about it.  He always said he didn’t see much action.  But when I found that box and opened it I realized that it contained much more than just an old army coat.

        So often in life we only see someone’s faults and failures.  We can’t find the real person because they are lost.  The key to finding them is discovering the reason they strayed.  It is often an experience that was too overwhelming, too devastating for them to deal with.  War has destroyed many lives.  So has betrayal, a devastating trauma, a broken relationship, or the death of someone we love. 

        My father and I still had a cordial relationship, but it was not the same.  Then he became ill.  He called me one day and asked me to speak at his funeral.  I made a visit to see him and for the first time in years he was my daddy again.  I realized as I walked out of the door that he had always been there, but I had not worked hard enough to find him.  It was the last time I ever saw him.

        I wish I had searched for my father the way he searched for me.  I wish I had found the box sooner.  If I had found the box, I might have found my father.  If I had found my father I would have experienced the same joy I had as a child when my father found me and held me in his arms.